Men, Please Be A Mentor & Ally to Women
Updated: Nov 15
Men, you all need to quit being angry at women and blaming women for your self-caused problems. I have a better idea: how about keeping your ego in check and start being a mentor and ally to women.
While we're on that subject, a segment on MSNBC's Velshi & Ruhle recently caught my attention that I couldn't ignore: men who are avoiding mentoring women in the workplace in the #MeToo era. What was my initial reaction, you ask? Simple. "You have got to be kidding me. What is wrong with these men?" During this segment, host Stephanie Ruhle, Shelley Zalis (CEO, The Female Quotient), and Tiffany Dufu (author of "Drop the Ball" and CEO of The Cru) discussed this (not surprising) workplace attitude from men.
Here are my immediate thoughts: these men are making excuses. Why? Because these men feel threatened, threatened by the fact they are finally being held accountable for their ego and offensive conduct towards women. About damn time. I've seen this kind of grotesque attitude from men before: they'll say one thing when women are present, but behind closed doors, they'll go on a rant about how this woman is this and that and such. Almost at a disturbing tone that is on the level of "how dare she talk back to me," etc. This amount of anger from some men towards women is quite frightening and disturbing.
Lastly, I agree with Tiffany Dufu; these men should be taking their rage out on the men who are harassing women and try and cultivate a more welcoming workplace culture where women can feel safe, welcomed, and appreciated.
It's not that hard, men. Quit making excuses.