Men, You Need To Be Mentors & Allies to Women
Updated: 3 days ago
Men, quit being angry at women and blaming women for your self-caused problems. I have a better idea: how about keeping your ego in check and start being a mentor and ally to women.
While we're on that subject, a segment on MSNBC's Velshi & Ruhle recently caught my attention that I couldn't ignore: men who are avoiding mentoring women in the workplace in the #MeToo era. What was my initial reaction, you ask? Simple. "You have got to be kidding me. What is wrong with these men?" During this segment, host Stephanie Ruhle, Shelley Zalis (CEO, The Female Quotient) and Tiffany Dufu (author of "Drop the Ball" and CEO of The Cru) led a fantastic discussion about this (not surprising) workplace attitude from men.
Here are my immediate thoughts: these men are making excuses. Why? Because they feel threatened. These men seem threatened by the fact their ego and offensive conduct towards women is finally (and rightfully) being called out. I've seen this kind of grotesque attitude from men before: they'll say one thing when women are present, but behind closed doors, they'll go on a rant about how this woman is this and that and such. Almost at a disturbing tone that is on the level of "how dare she talk back to me," etc. The level of anger some of these men have towards women is quite frightening and disturbing.
Lastly, I agree with Tiffany Dufu; these men should be taking their rage out on the men who are harassing women and try and cultivate a more welcoming workplace culture where everyone - including women and people of color - can feel safe, welcomed and appreciated.
It's not that hard, men. Quit making excuses.